How unhelpful beliefs can get in the way of your happiness.

It may seem like an obvious statement to make, but it’s difficult to overestimate how much your beliefs affect your happiness. How often do you stop and question what you believe? How about how often you question where your beliefs even come from? It’s a good idea to ask yourself these questions from time to time because you don’t know whether your beliefs are getting in the way of your happiness.

Now, by beliefs we’re not talking about your major beliefs, like your political or religious views, but your beliefs about yourself. These can be minor things like “I’m a very shy person” or “No one would want to be friends with someone like me”, but they can be incredibly powerful and restrict what you feel you have the ability to do.

Almost everyone is critical about themselves. We have that little voice in our heads that tells us we aren’t good enough. The main problem is that these beliefs are so potent that we assume they are true, even if they’re not. We then base our actions off these beliefs, and this is how they can get in the way of our happiness.

For example, if you believe you’re bad at meeting new people, you’re more likely to go out of your way to not meet new people. This just creates a self-fulfilling prophesy that isn’t necessarily based on any truth.

Challenging your unhelpful beliefs

Fortunately, your beliefs are just that: beliefs. In the same way you look back on pictures of yourself as a teenager and think “how on earth did I think that looked cool?”, you can make your unhelpful beliefs a thing of the past.

There are a number of ways in which you can challenge your beliefs, and one of those ways is through hypnotherapy. Hypnotherapy looks beneath the surface to find out what’s going on at a subconscious level. In doing so it finds out the root cause of your unhelpful beliefs, and then provides ways of changing them into more positive, helpful beliefs.

There are a number of other ways you can challenge your unhelpful beliefs which don’t require the help of a qualified hypnotherapist. For example, you can write down things you believe about yourself that have caused you pain or have limited your life in some way. Then, take the top one and ask yourself if it’s true. You can then ask yourself “can I absolutely know that this is true?”.

You’ll realise that you can’t absolutely know that your beliefs are true, so then you can ask yourself why you believe it, and where did you learn that belief. You can then start to challenge the belief by asking yourself whether your life would be better if you thought something different.

It’s important to imagine how your life would be if you believed something different and more positive because this is how you can see how your life would be improved!